“We are four years together, but we live in four different countries,” says Rebar, whose partner is in Sweden while he is stuck in Iraqi Kurdistan. “Our love story is a passport stamp. We meet in Istanbul for three days every six months. That’s modern Kurdish love — eternal distance.” If modern Kurdish love is complicated, queer Kurdish love exists in a different universe.
In a café in Sulaymaniyah, Iraqi Kurdistan, 28-year-old Nivin does something her mother never could: she pulls out her phone, opens a dating app, and swipes left on a Kurdish engineer living in Germany. His profile says he’s “traditional but open-minded.” She isn’t sure what that means anymore. modern love kurdish
But war also breaks love. Displacement scatters couples across borders. The absence of a Kurdish state means no legal recognition for marriages between Kurds from different countries. A Kurd from Iran and a Kurd from Turkey cannot easily marry or settle together anywhere. “We are four years together, but we live